Striking a Balance

Let's get ready to ramblllllllle!

Get it?

Ok, moving on.

Yesterday's weekend photos were light hearted and I've got a fun giveaway lined up for tomorrow, so I  thought I'd mindlessly ramble at you today. It just seemed to make sense. I'm talking about balance. It's a universal struggle I'm sure, especially for parents.

Balance is something I've been thinking about a lot lately. How to balance the needs of a busy toddler, a growing business, personal interests, and making time for Ryan and me. My first step so far has been coffee.


Walks to clear my head help.


Especially when they involve coffee.

In all seriousness, I'm trying to work out how to keep everything feeling balanced, not get overwhelmed, and feel like I'm checking all the boxes that need to get checked at home, with hubby, with WC, and with the babe.

I really find that walks with Olivia help. Getting outside does us both so much good and I feel like she naps better after which gives me time to get work done. Not to mention I can sit down to work with a clear head.


My priority is always our family, but I often feel like there are times I drop the ball. 

"Am I teaching her all the things I'm supposed to be?". 

"Am I a slacker wife because we're eating Subway for dinner again?". 

"She just dragged her syrup covered plate through her hair....can I get a way with just rubbing a baby wipe over it?"

Daily questions.

As far as figuring out how to fit more hours in the day, I'm still working on that. Until then, I'm making sure I stop and tell myself to chill out, that it's just headbands, it's ok if she runs around naked 75% of the day, and that I don't know a lot of people here yet so it's fine if I go to the grocery store in my sweatpants with all my adolescent acne (seriously, skin?!) exposed for all the world to see.

We're making it a point to get a babysitter at least every two weeks so we can have a date, I'm going to bed at a reasonable hour (most of the time), and I'm trying not to worry too much about Olivia's complete disinterest in using words.

Date night, good for the soul, bad for the waistline.

Then I stop to tell myself that I'm a weenie. I have one kid, just one. It will all be fine. Although if one. more. stranger. tells me to get cracking on baby number 2, I might roll my eyes so hard they get lost in my skull.

So that's where I'm at. Don't leave me alone on Mom Island - tell me you worry about this stuff too? Even better, tell me how you find balance, I'm all ears. 

40 comments:

  1. Noah is still by no means a super talker but he was late to the game on repeating words and is finally starting to. I agree to just let it be and give them some time. And yes, the dreaded #2 question is getting old!

    Not sure if you are interested, but some other bloggers and I are doing a holiday gift exchange. Check your past email and let me know if you want to participate with Olivia :)

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    1. Sorry I"m such an email slacker! And yes on the #2 question :)

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  2. Hahaha...you said sneakers again...love it! ;-) We're totally on the same page here. I just got back from vacation and honestly, 11 days away chilled me the 'frick out. I so needed it. I'm much more laid back and relaxed and not getting all worked up about my to-do list and open orders. I'm taking time to spend with my hubby, doing some things around the house that I've wanted to do and just sitting down for 5 minutes for no other reason than I deserve it! I've also chilled out a bit with social media. It can be so exhausting (to me) trying to keep up with it all and, for right now at least, I just don't really care about it all that much! I'm hoping I can keep this mentality going and not shift back into crazy small business owner mode because you're right, they're just headbands! Lets help keep each other in check, K?

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    1. I thought of you as I wrote this - I knew you'd totally get it. I'll help you, you'll help me :) And yes, sneakers!

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  3. Oh my gosh, Megan have you not read my recent post about being an imperfect mom and feeling terrible about it!?!? HAHA! I struggle with all of this stuff too, we ALL do. I think you're doing incredible by getting a baby sitter at least twice a month, Adam and I haven't been on a date in months! :)

    I worry so much about teaching S all the things I'm supposed to, especially because I too am worrying about her vocabulary. It's hard not to compare her to other children, but honestly she still doesn't talk a lot. BUT I just have to remember that every kid develops differently, and so what if she's a late talker and needs speech therapy (my husband did and he's now a lawyer).

    Like Jess said, I had to chill out a bit with social media also. I find the comparison trap the hardest for me, to be honest.

    You're doing awesome, a rockstar mama in my opinion :) and Olivia is just the sweetest little thing.

    Oh and the baby#2 question. haha don't even get me started...

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    1. Tawnya, I read it and LOVED it! Ya'll need a date night - stat!

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  4. Not alone!! I'm also a work-at-home-mom and constantly hear/read what daycare is teaching the kids and I freak out like am I as good as daycare?! Then I step back and reread, they're doing shapes. My kid will be ok if I teach her shapes tomorrow, but today went to the zoo and she smiled and that's what matters. It's a constant worry game and we all do the best that we can, you're doing great!

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  5. You are not alone at all! I constantly worry and I'm not sure if I will every find the "perfect" balance. What I do know is that my boys are happy and if they are happy then I'm happy as well. I just try to put a smile on their face, if I can do that then I succeed! You are doing a great job!

    www.mylifewithaaron.blogspot.com

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    1. Thanks, Andrea! I think you're so right and it's important to focus on that stuff :)

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  6. Daily struggle over here to not feel like a complete and utter failure in soooo many areas! I need to get better about making sure I make time for 'me' because mama needs to get recharged too!

    3brownsandcounting.blogspot.com

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  7. You are doing a great job! Everyday I try to figure out how I can give my family what they need all while working a 40 hour week, cleaning up after a 13 month old and trying to put food on the table for my family. Some days work out great and others are chaos but as long as we all go to sleep with a smile on our faces, then I feel like I have at least tried.

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    1. at least we've tried is so right! That's all we can do, right?

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  8. I never comment but I want you to know how refreshing it is to hear such an honest post. Thank you for keeping it real :-)

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    1. Thanks so much for reading (and commenting!!)!

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  9. You're doing great! I want to know how woman balance a baby and dinner. Because in my mind dinner is the devil. I hate thinking about it, preparing it - heck even eating it!

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  10. This is my first time commenting, because YES. A struggle for sure and my business is so much smaller than yours!! I can barely keep up. I constantly worry about doing enough with and for my daughter...am I teaching her everything? Reading enough to her? Am I saying yes enough? Yes, I will play with you... Yes, I will hold you... Yes, I will play patty cake 50 times in a row because you love it. Yes, we can go down that slide again. Or am I saying no too much..mom's busy? (Want to cry just typing that out.) I am trying to cut myself some slack about dinner, laundry, etc because she is super needy right now....but at the same time, who knows when the neediness will end so I am trying to figure out a system for meal planning, laundry, etc. Anyway, I am sure many moms can relate. If it makes you feel better, I see your photos on IG and always think, "How does this lady do it all!?" especially because I am not a make up every day and get dressed nicely person! And you always look awesome and are so organized and I cannot even imagine having the time to keep up a blog too. You are amazing. I feel like I don't even have time to write this comment and should be doing 92387 other things!

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    1. haha, you should see me the 75% of the time I don't post photos of myself. Whoa, nelly :) Thanks though, I appreciate it!!

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  11. It is so hard to find a balance. I know I question if I teaching Emerson enough or the right things all the time. It's such an easy thing to do and a bad trap to fall into. You are doing a great job! You are loving on your little girl, providing for her, and showing her how to live. That's what she needs. She thinks you are the best mama and wouldn't have you any other way I'm sure. And shoot, I wish I was lucky enough to eat Subway or some other meal I didn't cook more often! :)

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    1. Thanks, Hannah! It's what I needed to hear :)

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  12. Love this post. Balance is hard. I think women always wonder if were doing enough. Its so important that we are happy and healthy and the rest of the household will run smoother. One child is draining. I can't even imagine two. How will we ever have time for ourselves??

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    1. Seriously! I wonder this all the time but yet, people make it work, so I guess we will too :)

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  13. I'm sure you are doing a wonderful job as a mother, these are worries I hear from so many other parents so I think it's natural. I'm sure when I have kids I will be the same way...so much respect for you moms and all that you take on!

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  14. It's hard to balance everything! Just do what feels best. You looked so gorgeous for date night! Pretty lady! Lucy :)

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  15. First time commenter here! My personal thoughts are, that life with a toddler is really hard. I mean, your day is filled with all sorts of things but at the end of the day sometimes we feel like we accomplished nothing at all. It's not a good feeling and sometimes it can wear on you day after day, you know? That's how I felt anyway. My kids are now (almost) 4 and 6 and let me tell you that life in general is just so much easier and pleasant. They are so much fun and even though we are busier with school activities, I feel so much more accomplished at the end of every day. Being a stay at home mom of a toddler is really hard, so hang in there- and know that you will be sending her off to kindergarten a heck of a lot sooner than you realize. And then, you'll look back and never regret the time you got to spend with her. Promise!

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    1. I totally feel that way! I have to remind myself that it goes so quick and that easier (and tougher) times are just around the corner so to just enjoy the moment!

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  16. You are definitely not alone! I will say that with #2, I worry much less because I don't have time too! My first son was a late talker. Now at 3 he won't shut up so be careful what you wish for :)

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  17. I feel like I could've written this. I freak out about how chaotic life feels and how disorganized I am quite often, then I wonder why I'm feeling so sorry for myself with only one kid. We want to have more kids but the thought of trying to parent more than one at a time seems terrifying and completely impossible to me sometimes!

    I also struggle with the doubt about not doing enough for my baby girl - not enough time doing quality activities, teaching moments, reading books, feeding her the most perfect balanced meal, letting her sit in the crib a while while I finish my TV show...(haha).

    It helps to get out of the house and it really helps me the most to be around other moms with young kids. I need to get all the venting out before my husband comes home and thinks I'm insane. It also helps me to get out of the house by myself to work on business stuff at a coffee shop at least one night a week. I really like to be productive and I need away time to be able to do that these days. Getting something, anything done is vital to my self-worth.

    As a blogger/online seller it's difficult to admit but I agree with what Tawnya said earlier about social media. I spend so much time just scrolling and scrolling through various feeds. Seeing everyone's lovely perfect put together homes and kiddos stresses me out more than it should and it's really hard to not start comparing.

    At the end of the day, we're all doing the best we can. In the long run, you are spending lots of important time with your daughter, all while teaching her how important it is to work hard to follow your dreams and build a business (and a life) that you can be passionate about and proud of. And I think that's what matters.

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    1. I think you're right! Getting out of the house makes a big difference and I really do think often that I hope I'll make Liv proud by doing what inspires me :)

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  18. I literally have a post drafted to publish on my blog soon about this very thing! Been struggling with it extra hard for the past couple weeks. It's soooo difficult to find, much less maintain, that balance between home, relationships, spouse, mother, caretaker, teacher and so on! I think it's a constant struggle in process for all of us and I suppose I'm just trying to learn how to identify the important things and when to let the little stuff go and not try to do so much all the time. I'd say you're in good company!

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    1. Got my post up this afternoon - here's the link: http://bellsandkilts.blogspot.com/2014/10/claiming-my-crazy-life.html

      Wives, moms, friends, business owners - sounds like we're all in it together! :)

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    2. Thanks, Amber! I'm going to check it out!

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  19. Megan, all I can say is that you are not alone. I have a 18 month old girl and a full time job, i know exactly how that feels. The one thing that i've learned during the past 18 months is that, I may not be a perfect mom, by that I mean always have home made meals on the table, which rarely happens in my house:)) but what i can be is a happy mom, and therefore a happy husband and happy toddler. I love your post, that makes me feel that i am not alone either.

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  20. You are not alone! It's so hard to find that balance.. I don't feel like I'm there yet either (though I'm starting to feel like there's no such thing as a perfect balance). I constantly feel behind on something.. okay everything. Craft fairs and 5Ks have snuck up on me and I'm nowhere near ready, I'm behind on house projects, I feel like I need to be doing more with our little one.. it never ends. ;)

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